the black nathalie sancoeur.
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Going where I am wanted.
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I used to live by the quote, “If they don't give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair,” because I wanted to be included in things I wasn't a part of that clearly weren't interested in all I do. I wanted to prove that I belonged with them. The best way to network is to try to talk to those with interests similar to yours, right?
Now, about that quote. With the experiences I dealt with within the last two years, I don't want to do that anymore. I am more so following the quote “go where you are wanted” moving forward.
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My irrelevant con parties opinion.
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I often tell people to take what I say with a grain of salt and form their own opinions. Con parties can be fun, but they shouldn’t dominate the entire weekend. By no means do I think it’s wrong for people to attend parties during a con. But as someone who’s been to some parties, I have only enjoyed a few of them. Con parties are overrated. -
The ways death changes you.
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Do I feel any different about her death now than I did back then? The answer is yes: I feel worse. -
Y'all were not nice to Rubi Rose.
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Content note: This blog post is intended for mature audiences; this is only advised for those 18 and older to read.
Respectability politics has been a trending topic this year because of people's reactions towards celebrities. The main talking point I saw was, “Halle is a Disney princess, and you’re just a s*x worker,” and that’s where all the discourse began to go south for me.
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Being an obsessive fangirl is not cute, and I didn’t learn that until I stopped being one.
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Swarm freaked me out because, while I did not want to hurt someone for disliking my favorites, I understood stan culture and why people turn to it. -
Getting invested in celebrity drama is a waste of time.
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Toward the end of 2022, I fell down the Blueface and Chrisean rabbit hole, an abusive relationship that people look at for entertainment. This relationship was a big distraction for me when I was making my Disneycember series when I realized I needed to cut back on being on social media a lot. I find it kind of applauding that many are pointing and laughing at this, as this isn’t fiction. These are real people.
