the black nathalie sancoeur.

  • I may not feel good, but I look good.

    Rihanna once said, “She can beat me, but she cannot beat my outfit.” This is something I think about, but it isn’t about any particular person; it’s about me versus the world. No matter what I’m dealing with, I’m going to make sure I look good because that’s something that’s somewhat under my control.
  • This is the only time I'm gonna talk about my mother.

    Before my mother's death, I will say that half of my life was dedicated to taking care of her. She always had issues with her health, and being as young as nine years old was when I first started to care for her. When she died, it was the first time I could truly take care of myself. Going to therapy wasn’t doing much, and you want to know why? Because afterward, when my session was over, I had to take care of her. One of the main things causing me so much distress, and I had no choice.
  • How miserable do I have to be before you’re happy.

    While the context of the situation is different than what I’m feeling, the line where Millhouse says, “How miserable do I have to be before you're happy?” sticks with me forever. I continue to ask myself, “Why do you continue to put your well-being at stake for the comfort of others? If you keep doing that, you’ll keep being taken advantage of and have no money in your pocket.”
  • Anyone ready for 2023 to GTFO?

    2023 has been a very draining year for many. Let’s go ahead and get the cat out of the bag. Every week, more like every day, it’s something new. Even when I am doing things for fun, I am with the dread of how dark the world is and want to lie down. 
  • Y'all were not nice to Rubi Rose.

    Content note: This blog post is intended for mature audiences; this is only advised for those 18 and older to read.

    Respectability politics has been a trending topic this year because of people's reactions towards celebrities. The main talking point I saw was, “Halle is a Disney princess, and you’re just a s*x worker,” and that’s where all the discourse began to go south for me.

  • My brand turns two today. Here’s the truth about owning a small business.

    Wow, it’s been two years already? Entrepreneurship is something that has always interested me since I was a little girl, and I am thankful to be able to pursue it as a career path. Regarding the subject of work, I think we need more honesty! I strongly advocate letting people know what they are getting into. Here are a few things I have learned since my brand became official.
  • Twenty-two things I learned in 2022.

    Happy new year, everyone! Can I even still say that? Well, we are only 19 out of 365 days, so yes, yes, I can. People often do their number countdowns at the end of the year, but it would be nice to share mine at the beginning of the year. Here are 22 things I learned in 2022 that I have taken into 2023.
  • I'm sorry, but I can't find myself to like Emilie Agreste.

    Yes, it is sad when white women go missing and turn up dead; I'm not saying it isn’t. But Miraculous Ladybug has conditioned the audience to feel bad for her, and when someone mentions something off, discourse arises because Emilie is what society sees as the perfect woman.
  • The business girl aesthetic is super fake.

    What is the business girl aesthetic, you say? Before 2015 this aesthetic only really applied to women and girls who were well-known YouTubers, singers, rappers, or actors with consistent work. These women post photos of themselves on Instagram wearing designer clothing, eating at five-star restaurants, and wearing bikinis on vacation.

    Many women in this field do not care about the hard work, dedication, and time it takes to be your boss and freelance. Plenty simply want to do this because social media has sold them the idea that if they start a business selling the same things as everyone else, they will achieve wealth and can buy whatever they please. Suppose you see these things take up plenty of space on one’s Instagram feed, who are relatively young most of the time. In that case, they work in entertainment, have a youtube channel with a large following, or sell products and services to numerous people.